I’m guilty of comparing my children to each other. I’ve compared when they first got their teeth, first crawled and walked.
However, I try to remember that although they came from the same gene pool and are being raised the same way, they are two very unique little boys. They will have their own strengths, opinions and problems.
I parent them the same way. Or at least, I feel that I do, with a bit of experience added in with my second. I keep hearing people saying that one child is harder to care for than their previous child.
If you are constantly focused on how much “harder” the second, third or even seventh child is compared to another child that is all you are going to see. You won’t see their uniqueness and strengths, only the perceived difficulties. Subsequent children deserve no comparison to their elder siblings. It isn’t their fault that you feel the elder child was “easier.” These thoughts and words can harm the relationship between parent and child and even sibling to sibling.
In Hypnobabies ® Hypnosis for Childbirth, we focus the mind on the positive. I think that has helped me immensely in rearing my two boys. I do my best to accept that they are different little boys. So far it has helped me keep some inner peace.
I really enjoy reading a daily newsletter called The Daily Groove by Scott Noelle . It gives me a different perspective on parenting that reminds me that there are always different ways to look and react to a situation.