Does the “mean girl” attitude go away? Does it get worse as new mothers try to establish themselves in a hierarchy of women? Does it get better with time?
I ask because, I know I’ve been that “mean girl.” I know too that at age 33, the desire to be mean back rears its head often as I meet other women that may not believe what I believe. Or a level of frustration tips me over the edge and a flood of unkind words flows out of my mouth…or really the tips of my fingers and I try to prove my dominance. I wonder if my own passive aggressiveness will wane with age as I just decide I don’t want to deal with the crap and just let things roll off of me.
Women can be so mean sometimes. Why do we do that? Why must we belittle others to make a point? Why do we publicly and privately make judgements on others when we don’t know their entire story. I feel like some days, I’m much better with all of this than others. Perhaps my own struggles at home with my kids or people that I interact with make my tolerance level for bullshit lower and I just get pissed off more quickly. I do think that the internet makes us all braver. I know in person, I often don’t say what I really think out of fear that I might start crying or make some else cry. I really wish that we all would just take a moment to think before we type.
I just pray that with age, we all get nicer. Pushing other people’s buttons does nothing for my stress levels and then I bring it home to my family and act like a punk with my six-year-old. Anyone else guilty of this? Anyone that is wiser care to comment? Tell me it gets better?